Insanity of Motherhood

Motherhood, marriage, and midlife.

Wednesday Words of Wisdom – Cats in the Cradle

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The other day I was driving listening to the radio.  A song played that I haven’t heard in a long time.  It was called, Cats in the Cradle by Harry Chapman.  I remember hearing this song all the time growing up.  I know all the words to the song, but that day I paid close attention to the lyrics.  The lyrics talk about a man who becomes a father and how he doesn’t slow down his busy life to enjoy his son.

What made me listen closely to the lyrics was a conversation my husband and I had recently.  My husband expressed how if he had been more aggressive at work early on he would be farther ahead career wise.  Now in his mid forties he was finding it hard to make big career advancements.  We talked about it and I explained how his choice to be home every night for dinner and do little travel was a good one.  Although he could be in a career making more money, money could not replace the amount of time he spends with his boys.  My husband is home every night to play with Little Boy.  He helps with math with Tall Boy and takes Old Boy out to practice driving.  His contributions to our family are invaluable.  I could not imagine doing the job of parenting without him.

My husband and I have worked hard to keep our life simple.  We focus on caring for our boys in hopes one day they will choose to do the same for us.  We role model what we believe is truly the most important thing about being a parent…being there.

Today I thought I would share the lyrics for the song Cats in the Cradle by Harry Chapman

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it, and as he grew
He’d say “I’m gonna be like you dad
You know I’m gonna be like you”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let’s play
Can you teach me to throw”, I said “Not today
I got a lot to do”, he said, “That’s ok”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know I’m gonna be like him”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and said with a smile
“What I’d really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job’s a hassle and kids have the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, Dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son? I don’t know when,
but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Here is musical link to the song if you have never heard it before.

The lyrics give a reminder of what can happen if we lose sight of enjoying time with our children.

Author: insanityofmotherhood

Mom of three boys, wife, educator, and all around nice gal in the middle of a midlife something. It's not a crisis, but it's something…

13 thoughts on “Wednesday Words of Wisdom – Cats in the Cradle

  1. And you did it again 😉 : you said what I was thinking lately and talking about with my husband. I choose to stay at home just because I wanted to be there. And he choose a job that would allow him to be there too. Nothing counts more than that, really. If you can afford it, it’s the best we can give our children – and ourselves… Thanks so much for this post!

  2. Its definitely a tradeoff and one that I think about lately. I think it is hard not to wonder what if even as I appreciate the moments with my family.

  3. We all have moments when we wonder if it is all worth it. I am sure you boys appreciate you being available for them.

  4. Great reminder that applies to more than just your kids.

  5. I would not change a thing when it comes to scraping by and pinching pennies. Togetherness and being present is all important.

  6. So true! Time spent with our precious children is far better than all the gold and silver in the world. Blessings to you!

  7. I am so thankful that my husband is home every night. We may not have much financially, but I agree that “presence” means more than “presents.” His dad worked several jobs and wasn’t always around when my husband was growing up, and I know my husband has said many times that he wanted to make sure he was always there for his kids.

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