Today is the third anniversary of my blog. I had no idea until I happened to check my email and WordPress congratulated me on the big event. Interestingly, I am also celebrating my 20 year anniversary of marriage with my husband this month too. Anniversaries are a good thing to celebrate because they show a commitment.
To celebrate my blog anniversary I am writing today’s blog. To celebrate my 20 year wedding anniversary my family and I have just returned from a two-week trip to Ireland/England for our spring break vacation. It was an amazing trip. What seems more amazing is how I have been married for 20 years. It seems yesterday when my husband and I took our vows as husband and wife.
We took our boys with us on our anniversary celebration overseas. People asked why my husband and I brought the boys along if we were celebrating our life as a married couple. The reasons we brought the boys are simple. First, we wanted to visit both countries and didn’t have anyone to care for the boys if we went away. Second, the boys are part of our marriage. They are a result of my husband and I being married, so it seemed appropriate to bring them along. Third, we wanted to give the boys the gift of travel. Overseas travel is something my husband and I enjoy and we haven’t done so since we got married 20 years ago. With college starting soon for Old Boy and then for Tall Boy soon after, now was the best time to show the boys that a world exists outside of the United States. Our hope is to inspire the boys to make their own plans for travel when they are older. This may have been our only overseas trip with all five of us, so we wanted to make sure if was a trip to remember.
Taking three kids on a two-week, two countries trip was no easy feat. Planning took months. Years ago when my husband and I traveled we did some pre-planning, but most of the fun was taking a drive and seeing where you ended up. If we wanted to stay at a place longer we would. This is wasn’t an option for us traveling with the boys. We planned each place, with the boys in mind, to reduce the amount of stress it would place on us and them. Our planning worked. With minimal stress we were able to see and do all the things we wanted to do. Every hour I spend researching details of our stay was worth it.
The anniversary trip to England/Ireland had an impact on me. It made me realize how much my husband and I have in common. We enjoy seeing and experiencing different cultures and learning new things. We don’t often do much out of the ordinary in our home, daily lives and yet were more than willing to do and try everything while traveling. Some folks have no interest in staying in endless lines at the airport for the sake of traveling, but my husband and I are. I wish I could say our boys shared their parents’ enthusiasm for travel, but at times they longed for the comforts of the familiar more than the spirit of a great adventure.
My husband felt discouraged because our boys weren’t more expressive with gratitude about allowing them to join us on our anniversary trip. I was less concerned. My boys are nice guys, but aren’t mature enough yet to realize the sacrifices we made to take them on the trip. I don’t expect them gush how wonderful their parents are because we gave them a gift. We willingly chose to take them with us. The boys didn’t ask to come. I know ( or hope) they will understand the size of our gift to them some day. The next overseas trip my husband and I will be alone though. As much as we enjoyed having the boys with us, my husband and I realized we would enjoy the next trip much more without constantly catering other people’s needs.
To be honest, I’m not happy to be home. I know I will be in a few days, but our vacation was good at taking away stress. The moment I walked through my front door I could feel the weight of life responsibilities push down on me. There are bills to pay, emails to read, laundry to wash, food to shop for, and thank you notes to write. The joy of living for only in the moment has passed. As much as I would like to continue in the mindset of my vacation I know the daily grind of life will not allow me to feel as free.
The anniversary vacation reminded me of how fortunate I am, especially for my marriage. My marriage is the single greatest gift I’ve been given. I hope my husband and I have many more celebrations in the future.
Happy anniversary to my husband of 20 years and happy anniversary to another year of blogging.