A friend of mine recently confronted my with something on her mind. In particular, she did not understand how I could be friends with certain types of people.
My friend and I have known each other for years. She is a wonderful gal. She is warm, intelligent and very supportive. Her approaching me about who I associate with is not the first time. She has spoken to me several times about this topic. I always listen to her concerns, but do not change my behavior. It makes her very frustrated.
Unlike her, I do not feel the need to have every person I associate with share my values. It would be nice, but it is not going to happen. People know who I am. They know what I value in life. By remaining friends with people who disagree with my ideas, does not mean I do not have strong beliefs.
There are times when I see a Facebook posting by a friend of mine that I don’t agree with. I do not comment. I remain silent. It is hard to do sometimes, especially when I feel the comment is mean-spirited. I do however post my own ideas on my Facebook page. This allows me to express myself and lets people know who I am. I do not feel threatened by allowing other people to do the same.
My friend feels by remaining in contact with Facebook friends who do not share my values, I am saying I agree with them. I can tell she is worried other people may influence my thinking. She does not need to worry. I know who I am and what I stand for.
At one point my girlfriend asked me a question.
“What is a nice girl like you doing associating yourself with people like that?”
I answered her.
“Practicing tolerance. Demonstrating to my children how to treat people who are different from me. Expressing the love I know God would want me to. And most of all, remembering we are all in this life together.”
That is it. That is what I a nice girl like me is doing. I can only hope others will do the same.